Here in the East, it is common to expect the dead to appear in your dreams soon after their passing. It is so expected that some close relatives may feel slighted if it doesn’t happen. I’ve not been particularly close to my deceased relatives, so visitations from relatives have been few, but they have taken place under varied sleep and dreaming situations. In my waking time I then check on what just happened and sometimes communicate through cards, dowsing, and my spirit guides. I’m still learning in this area but amazed at my experiences so far.
Waking from Dreamless Sleep
I don’t discount visits that wake me up from sleep–where I will not recall dreams, but there will be a knowing of who woke me up, or a clear image in my inner vision of the being, if I am not familiar with them. After some time, I’ve come to learn that presences whom I recognise are accompanied by a feeling of warmth, joy, and peace (this is very much possible in the waking hours as well). Visits from those I don’t recognise usually cause my heart to pound; my immediate reaction is to call in the light (and Archangel Michael) with all the love I can muster–so I can go back to sleep.
I’ve come a long way since my first night-time visit, believe me.
Dreaming of Dead Loved Ones
It’s happened for me more commonly in lucid dreams than not–and when I’ve met my spirit guides. Once, the presence of the deceased loved one made me realise that I was dreaming, which allowed me to appreciate the moment for what it was: Some time to spend together–it happened in complete silence and in white light. Another visit happened in a lucid dream where my friend looked different, but he’d been so unique in life that it was still “him”. There was a long conversation (half in thoughts and half in speech), though I don’t remember anything about it now.
The most recent lucid-dream meeting had me face-to-face with a young-looking female relative, in the presence of my guides. I didn’t recognise her and wracked my brain on her identity. “Are we related?” I blurted. She answered affirmative, and I thought she was on my mother’s side of the family. Inquiring along these lines in waking time, I was unable to find out who she was. It took one more day for my father to bring up, in passing conversation, a smart independent woman on his side of the family (a distant grand aunt) who had passed 2-3 weeks ago. Bingo! I was flattered by her visit, and even more pleased when I was able to connect again and receive a message. I honestly thought I didn’t have relatives who would reach out after death, much less those I’d never known, so this was a pleasant surprise.
If I’m lucid and meet the dead in that dream–I generally know it’s real, because I’ve never set my lucid dream agendas to meet them. They’re there of their own volition and in the presence of my guides, whom I trust completely.
Subconscious Creation vs Visitations
I’m not inclined to file every dream with the deceased as a visitation; if there is little/no interaction, and no new information about them comes through, I treat them as a image from my subconscious–“set dressing”, maybe someone representing my family, or the past.
But recently I dreamt of myself “adopting” a deceased friend as a child; not only was I housing him and putting him to bed, but I was receiving information from his real-life mother on how to take care of him, and seeing her at her workplace, incorporating details I’d long forgotten about. The friend, even though I was seeing him younger than 10 years old, exhibited all the determination, wit and optimism (90% of the time–alright K, 95%) that I’d associated with him. (I didn’t become lucid.) And after waking up from this dream, I unexpectedly found myself in the (online) company of others who’d also known him–one of whom confessed she had also just thought of him. Not the usual circumstances for us, and definitely not usual when an old issue for me with someone else in the group came to a rather dramatic close after 10 years. I think K wanted to be around to watch–with childish glee? (It was pretty entertaining.)
Communicating with the dead (in my case, without wake-time clairvoyance) is something possible to do with enough trust in your guides and protectors, and the ability to claim and cleanse your space. (Having appropriate protections for your communication and space is a must, but easily done.) I’ve stopped wondering if the dead can come to visit–I’ve long known they can. But at the same time, it’s important to keep the reception clear and unclouded by one’s own projections and desires. The subconscious can create illusions for us, but if we’re meticulous and honest with ourselves about our desires and fears, sometimes what comes through can have the signs of something autonomous–and we can greet them with love if we choose.